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An inner joy and contentment so immense that it cannot be contained in a body and must radiate into the world cannot be bought with the largest salary or insured with the best benefits package. It comes only from doing what you love...

Karen Alonge


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Passion At Work

L
ast weekend I accompanied my partner to his annual employee picnic with some trepidation. (I get nervous about making small talk with strangers.) As soon as we loaded up our plates we could put it off no longer. It was time to find a seat and start the small talk.

The woman across from us immediately greeted us with a smile and an introduction. Her friendly gesture disarmed my fears, and before I knew it we were chatting like old friends.

Common ground showed itself immediately . . . children. Hers were absolutely cherubic with golden curls framing round faces and big brown eyes. Mine were not there. (It was their dad's weekend with them.) But she asked questions about them and seemed genuinely interested in the answers.

Watching her interact with her kids was delightful. She spoke to them with such love and respect. So I was thrilled to hear that her own children are not the only ones she takes care of. She works for her school district, in the program that provides after school and summer care for ages 3-12. As she spoke I watched an already beautiful woman become absolutely radiant. She loves her job. Loves it. Loves it!

Her story was engrossing to me because so many in her position are tired, drained and burning out. Caring for children is one of the most potentially exhausting kinds of work out there, and the 'pay' and 'benefits' are ridiculous. Nevertheless, she seemed to derive boundless energy and joy from her work.

The joy shining from her eyes was magnificent in its brilliance. Her heart was bursting with love. I couldn't stop smiling as she told me story after story of the specialness she could see in each child. How each child was different, and how she loved paying close attention to each one to learn how to reach him or her inside in the deepest way possible.

Aha! Attention! Could that have something to do with her deep satisfaction? It seems to me that often we become tired, bored, or burned-out when we become so accustomed to our work that we take it for granted and stop paying attention. (As a matter of fact, that dynamic holds true for more than just our careers.) I imagine it would have been easy to lump children into various categories (temperament, etc) and once having done so, stop seeing them as unique individuals and instead manage them by type. But every single day she saw something different in every single child. She paid attention to their moods, their feelings, their accomplishments. It's a cliche that no two children are alike, but she was actually living it . . . delighting in it!

She was the poster child for how it can be when we do what we love and love what we do. As I listened to her I thought about all the people who have given up this kind of joy and fulfillment in trade for a high salary or security or whatever seemed more important to them. And I wondered, how could it possibly be worth it?

An inner joy and contentment so immense that it cannot be contained in a body and must radiate into the world cannot be bought with the largest salary or insured with the best benefits package. It comes only from doing what you love, what is so much a part of who you are that you would do it for free. It comes from offering your deepest gifts to the world, and not from managing your life to make sure you will receive the gifts of others. And it comes from paying attention to what we are doing and to those around us as if this moment were our very first one together, and could be our last.

Thank you, Linda, for reminding me of the potential for joy in each one of us. Those children in your care are blessed, and so are all who cross your path. It was a pleasure to share a meal and an afternoon with you.


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